Dr. Tammie Ducre Moore is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist & CEO of Western Wake Counseling & Psychological Services in Cary, NC. With her husband of 32 years, she has four children, one son-in-law and two grandchildren. I met Tammie when her brother, a former college football teammate of my husband’s, learned that we were moving to North Carolina and gave us her contact information so we would know someone there. She’s one of the most welcoming, friendly people I’ve ever met and her family became our family in North Carolina. Here’s what she has to say about building, balancing, and being a powerful mom.
1. What am I building?
Me, Myself, & I… (No; Not in a selfish way, but in a SELF-CARE type of way). I have worked full-time for over 30 years since graduating from LSU in 1986. I have owned and operated a business for the last 20 years, I have been actively parenting for almost 30 years. My oldest will be 30 in October and my youngest (age 17) graduated high school last week. He will be leaving for college in August and for the first time in three decades, my husband and me will have an “empty nest.” I feel like I’m entering a “mid-life adolescence.”
I don’t see this time as any type of “mid-life crisis”… For me, it’s an opportunity for growth, rebirth, and renewal. I’ll be 55 years old next month and I plan to continue living my BEST LIFE, but living it even better! I want to be more intentional and purposeful about my life course trajectory and my relationships. I plan to be more mindful. I want to focus on maintaining a healthy mind, body, and spirit! In my professional life, I plan to scale down the business and work smarter NOT harder. I plan to “tighten my circle” of friends. I plan to have FUN and lots of good times with my husband. We are still friends and love to laugh even after the decades of “active-hands-on parenting”. I want us to take the next decade and travel and do all the things we want to do. I remember being an adolescent and pondering questions like, “who am I” and “where do I belong” and “where am I going.” and “what do I want to be when I grow up.” I plan to ask these same questions at 55, but this time I will feel confident and self-assured about my responses.
2. How do you balance all that is required of you?
PRAYER! I grew up on the bayous of South Louisiana and I was surrounded by a powerful village of praying women. My grandmothers always said, “Go Pray”. This was their typical response to any of life’s challenge. To this day, when I feel out of balance or overwhelmed I try to sit still and PRAY! It doesn’t have to be a formal prayer nor does it have to be while on my knees. I was taught to talk to GOD at any time of day, while driving my car, sitting at my desk, or washing dishes. I read a daily devotional and scripture every morning before I start my day. I’m an early riser and I also love “mall walking” with the senior citizens. There’s something about seeing them strut through the mall that encourages and uplifts me. I tend to pray while I’m walking. A few of my other favorite things that help me to achieve balance include regular hair appointments, mani/pedis, massages, listening to music, especially gospel and jazz, and I love listening to audiobooks and Podcasts.
3. What’s my Superpower?
I rise with the SUN! I can accomplish more between the hours of 4:30am – 8:30am than I can get done all day long! As a young college student I realized early on that I could not stay up with my peers and do “all-nighters” during exam time. I could not focus and retain any information. Years later, I would write my doctoral dissertation (with 3 children – ages 3,5, & 7) between the hours of 4am-8am. So RISING EARLY is my superpower. However, here’s my disclaimer: 9:30pm-10:30pm is like kryptonite for me and this superwoman cannot even have a good coherent conversation without dozing off mid-sentence. LOL.